on wedding bands

(source: Blue Nile)

the first time I saw an eternity ring, it was on my ex-boss’s hand. it was big. it was bling. and it was oh so white. every time I visited her office in the two years, i would sneak glances at her ring, never getting sick of it.

so i’ve kinda set my eyes on having one. a full one, no half measure. but a part of me knows that it’s just a want and not a need. plus a year ago ninja groom already coughed out money to buy me a solitaire as an engagement ring even though he was still a student(!). when I was a student I was poor like hell cos I didn’t have the discipline to save a single cent or the motivation to work harder for more money. thus the sensible thing to do now is not expect him to spend his hard earned savings from his first year of work to give me a lavish ring. actually, mama kraken doesn’t even think i should get another ring. i guess engagement ring + wedding ring is a relatively modern concept that didn’t exist back in her time.

also, ninja groom loooooves educating me about the de beers marketing ploy, how they engineered the demand for diamonds, and that it’s not really a precious stone yadda yadda yadda…

anyhow, the plan is to get a plain vanilla wedding band that I can wear almost 24/7. i used to wear my couple ring almost all of the time but these days I sometimes forget to wear my e-ring out. cos opening the lid of my jewellery box is like, another step in my morning routine, which I forget half the time. paiseh paiseh. after reno is over, insyaAllah i’ll save up to get my own eternity ring. though recently ninja groom threw in surprise of the century to joke/say/promise that he’ll get me one for our 10th year anni. awww! can it be 9 May 2025 already? let me install another countdown timer on this blog. haha hashtag shameless. hashtag melampau. hashtag now that’s jumping the gun.

we’ll most likely be ordering our rings from blue nile later this year, since they have super plain rings which I want. then we’ll also probably engrave the poetic tagline (for lack of a better word) that he came up with when we got engaged. it’s four words, so the first two will be on his and the last two will be on mine. excites!

I’ll end off this ring talk with photos of how we measured our ring sizes. the story is that blue nile has a sizing chart PDF which you can print and check that it’s to scale. the prob is that when I printed per their instruction, the line that was supposed to be 30mm showed up as 29.9mm. it. just. fell. short. plus, ring sizes differ by like 0.3-0.4mm. let me say that again – 0.3-0.4 MILLIMETERS. now I am potek plus rabun and very selenge so I don’t trust my naked eyes to tell whether my ring size is 15.7mm or 16.1mm. all same same but different to me!

soooo my enterprising ninja groom brought his dad’s VERNIER CALLIPERS hahahah. remember lower secondary science lab sessions??!! my science teacher used to call them “wernier callipus”. oh i never thought i would hold one again…

using the top blades to measure the inner diameter of my couple ring

reading says 1.515cm, buuut the ring is supposed to be higher up, so this reading is still a little off

the sizing chart

tailoring my own songkets: part 2

heads up to fellow BTBs who plan to tailor your own outfits — figuring out bridal packages could be one messy affair.

veteran bridal houses like fatimah mohsin makes the calculations less complicated… they simply charge a premium on top of their packages for each of your own outfits you wear. easy to understand, but feels expensive.

with versari ade and ishQ, it’s less straightforward, but still workable. you pick your basic package based on the outfits you need to rent, and then you top up roughly $150 to borrow their accessories (unless you intend to buy your own costume jewellery to match your outfits), and then you also top up for extra hours if needed.

the rep for VA was very patient with me as we tried to work out the details. my situation is more complicated because insyaAllah my wedding will be a two day event (sat: nikah and bride’s reception, sun: groom’s reception). if I recall correctly, VA has a policy where you can’t get mak andam services alone. meaning to say that I would need to rent at least one outfit from them for Saturday and Sunday each, in order to get their mak andam. because I want to tailor two songkets, this means that I would need to have 4 outfits: nikah, Sat sanding, Sun sanding 1, Sun sanding 2.

not that’s it’s a bad situation, just that initially I was considering just having 3 outfits.

back to the VA rep, we based our calculations on a 2-outfit package, then added two sets of accessories rental, and extra hours because my 2-day reception is definitely longer than what they provide in their package. with ishQ, it was a similar “formula” / pricing structure. and in both cases, it seemed like I only had to pay extra $100-$200 to rent a fifth outfit, by opting for the 3-outfit package instead and adding the extra accessories (no need to top up as many hours).

but kak nora said 1 sanding outfit after my nikah is just nice so that we don’t have to rush so much. so 4 outfits it is.


all in all, my bridal package combined with expected tailoring costs is higher than I initially budgeted. especially if i’m going to be mentel and top up for a designer outfit with ishQ (helloooo syomir izwa). I suppose one way to make tailoring your own outfits more budget-friendly is to hire a freelance make up artist instead. hopefully one who has accessories, else you’d have to buy your own or do without, if you don’t mind.

the other strategy, which I’m striving for, is to sell the outfits to a mak andam/bridal house after my wedding, to help recover costs. this one is a risk though, I’m not sure how easy or difficult it will be. and already it influences the type of baju I will tailor e.g. I ruled out tailoring a maxi dress cos it’s less versatile once it’s customised to my measurements, and I’m still mulling over lined sleeves as I plan to use lace. lined sleeves would be convenient for me, but could have less resale value because it’s less versatile, i dunno.

*insert hoobastank song And The Reason is Youuu…*

despite the higher costs and effort that will go into tailoring my own outfits, I’m still going ahead because I thought it would be a fun thing to do with my mum. we’ve been tailoring our baju raya-s, so this would be taking it to a new level. I just hope Nov-Dec 2014 will be manageable insyaAllah, cos it’s gonna be crunch time. invitation cards designing and printing for me, berkat hunting for her, tailoring baju for us. ganbatte!

now we rilek aje.