when feeling crappy about wedding planning, go to…

Kahwin Khronicle’s amazing collection of GIFs, and instantly felt better.

anyways i thought about my earlier entry about dreaming up my decor theme, and realise i was being a lil unfair by not mentioning that i did get prompt response from decorama, jentayu gallery, SID events, and anggun wedding services.

of course it’s not a coincidence that they also charge higher than the smaller decor companies. justifiably so, considering their higher level of professionalism and years of experience. these guys seem to have dedicated sales people to help answer the million questions that we btbs tend to have.

following my post on my decor woes and gameplan (which i think is not going to happen already, judging from how it’s hard to even arrange an appointment plus i’m starting to feel more heck-care) i decided to increase my budget so that i could engage at least one of the above, if everything else fails. sooo i do have a pending appointment with jentayu in about a week’s time. insyaAllah if everything with elly weddings goes well within this week, i’m likely to cancel cos no point wasting jentayu’s time. i already told my mum about the wedding theme i discussed with elly weddings, and she’s started spinning off ideas for matching bunga rampais etc. lol. i’m glad my mum is onz.

yesterday i talked to a btb-friend about how some vendors are not responsive, and she  shared that she too has been ignored. i shouldn’t be happy but i’m glad i’m not alone ha ha.

i hate to be the kind of person to breathe down people’s necks but i just can’t wrap my head around this one… why would you open yourself for business only to turn interested people away…?

the kraken runs free

i’ve been terribly OBSESSED with wedding planning lately, and it’s been unhealthy. it’s barely two weeks since we got our date and i’ve been spending every waking moment just thinking, thinking about it. i wonder how long i can go on. . .although i suspect the end of the enthusiasm could be near.

here’s why:

mak andam – paused

can’t do much right now. my appointment with nora zee was postponed because she was unwell. have yet to fix an new apmt with her – gotta wait till she returns from her break. in case she’s not free on my date, i already have my second choice in mind. i haven’t checked if she’s free though, but i’m not overly worried about it. i’ll just ask her to recommend a colleague. *chants to self* must have abundance mentality!

decor – paused

the dream decorator is free on 9 May! yippee. however, i can’t go ahead to book them until my parents have booked a caterer. therein lies a problem because if they choose one that includes/insists (see pak haji story below) on decor, then i’ll have to let go of my decoration dreams. not only that, but if we really go ahead with pak haji, then i’ll have to settle for more standard decor. which is okay. . .just that i was hoping to go for something whimsy and young.

the pak haji story

so far my parents have tasted Amani’s food, and are now pending their next food tasting sesh with A&R Wedding Creation on 23 Feb. A&R is a bit of a mystery. it’s run by a husband and wife team, Pak Haji Arpah and Cik Ruhana. we’ve never heard of them and an online search doesn’t yield much.

we met them briefly on monday, to show them the two void decks we’re thinking of using. Pak Haji is interesting because he speaks with a LOT of conviction. like he really *believes* in his work. within 5 mins of meeting, he turned to me and said “yang paling penting, awak mesti ader keyakinan dalam saya.” and i’m like errr, okay, we just met ya and i’m still looking at your decoration pics. he strikes me as an authority marketer – he gives you a lot of proof points to back up this work (e.g. he invites you for food tasting at multiple weddings so that you can see how ‘consistent’ his quality is, and he suggests you come at 4pm so you can see that his food is always fresh, he mentions multiple times that he’s in the industry for 30 years, he claims that several people have forfeited their deposits with other caterers to be with him, etc.) in a way, talking to him gives you faith that he’s very experienced, knows what he’s doing, and even sincere and hardworking in his business. for instance, he said he would start sleeping over our void deck from thursday onwards to prepare the deco, refuses to collect any deposits until you’ve tried his food furrealz, and collects payment only two days after the wedding (as opposed to on actual day, as practised by other caterers).

so come 23 Feb, my parents will see for themselves if the food really lives up to the hype. i’m 50-50 on this, on one hand if they do like his food, then the most important vendor is settled and we can all sigh in relief. on the other hand, i won’t be able to engage my own decorator. for the record, his decorations are unique despite being on the oldskool side. he uses ceiling drapes that look like you’re in a gazebo instead of  a void deck, which is cool i guess. says he can customise colours, but apart from that, i doubt he would get Gen Y kind of decor concepts like rustic vintage, indoor gardens, etc. but i suppose going with him could save me some money.

photographer – slowing down

i recently discovered Ivan Tan Photography, whose work and approach i really love. however he isn’t taking 2015 bookings yet, because he could be going on post-grad studies and won’t know till mid-this year. plus his rates are slightly out of my league, even after i stretch my neck out a little. so i is sad.

so then i went a little crazy yesterday browsing thru photographers’ websites and e-mailing them for rates. last night and today, i heard from some of them (after refreshing my inboxes a million times at work, no less). and then i started to get a headache from the different kinds of pricing structures and price points. urgh. so in the end i hastily narrowed down to two choices, The Peeping Thom and Zakaria Zainal. we’re in the midst of setting up appointments with them, and in a move that surprised even myself, i said there’s no urgency – even march or early april will be fine. i look forward to meeting them though, and hopefully by then i would be more relaxed and happier than i am now and can engage them better.