September’s my second month of working from home + 5th month of pregnancy!
working from home updates
At the end of last month, I got my first client project, hurrah! And spent the first three weeks of September working on it. It was fun, took more time than expected, and overall a good learning experience. Then I got my second, third, and fourth projects — alhamdulillah 🙂 Hopefully October will see more projects come in, insyaAllah.
I feel like I still have a lot of mental work to do with regard to adjusting to a one-ish household income and running a business. A huge part of me REALLY wants to make this sustainable for the long run, but a small part of me does wonder occasionally if I made a mistake. Eeps. Then I think about how we hope to go on another big trip next year and how I would ideally like to start Chickpea in infantcare early, as opposed to enrolling him/her when slightly older, and then kind of panic about how I have to start scoring more and bigger projects to be able to afford them all. Or I could keep Chickpea at home with me until 18mo, but then I’m not confident of being able to get much work done. Unless I’m on a super, Tim Ferriss 4h work week type of thing, except I don’t think my productivity level is up there yet.
Entrepreneurship course — I enrolled for an entrepreneurship course months ago, before I’d even decided to quit my job furreals. It involved 2 whole Saturdays, which was quite strenuous for us because we’re both generally around on weekends and not used to solo parenting. Anyhoos, I expected a liiittle more from the course to be honest. But what to do, the money’s spent, and the only way to redeem it is to go out and start something. I have a vague idea but am not sure yet if I want to start it before Chickpea arrives.
Haze — Oh the haze. On the first weekend of bad haze, I was supposed to go to the treetop walk. We took a raincheck (hazecheck?) but haven’t gone back since. Glad it’s been raining lately so I think/hope our haze woes are over?? I’ve been falling behind my exercises (yikes) and hope to start going on walks soon.
My birthday — I officially turned a year older! Somehow turning 31 feels “meh” compared to turning 30, so this year’s birthday felt a lot more low key for me. NG treated me to a lunch at Halia — I told him about Chope’s awesome 45% off dining vouchers! — and a haircut + colour ehehehe. Anyway, what we learnt about Halia: their starters are a hell lot more impressive than their mains. I shouldn’t have spent so much on my main and instead got more starters. My family also went to Wakuwaku Yakiniku for a combined birthday celebration for me and my brother. It was a great experience but also so pricey omg! I think once is enough for me. Thankful to my family for treating me there 😉
Zoo trip — I brought Watermelon to the zoo last week for a mother-daughter outing and it was great! Minus the part where we were running late in the morning and missed the first animal show, boo. Watermelon had such a good time and still asks to revisit the zoo. Awww. Hopefully we can go at least once more before Chickpea arrives.
she requested to see elephants, just in time for the elephant show
picked this dress and let her bring her zebra soft toy so i could take this photo
pregnancy updates – weeks 19-22
Alhamdulillah, pregnancy continues to be relatively smooth and comfortable. I started being able to feel Chickpea’s movements around the start of the month. Each time I try to alert NG, he can’t feel them. We’ve had so many of such anticlimactic moments.
Then we had the gender scan!!! It didn’t go too well, actually. We spent AN HOUR inside. You know how too much of a good thing is a bad thing? I’m usually really excited about ultrasound scans and seeing the foetus develop, but when you’re talking about lying down for 1h with the sonographer poking at your tummy, it’s no longer fun.
We had two sonographers. The first one got me to turn here, turn there, so she could get the readings she needed. She clicked her tongue a bit and said that as she asked me to turn, Chickpea also turned away. Haha. Is Chickpea going to be a shy baby??? Then halfway her colleague (more senior I suppose?) took over, and started from the beginning. Ya Allah. But at least she got the job done. And gave us this hilarious print out.
She also confirmed the gender. Which I won’t share yet because I’m supposed to bake a gender reveal cake for my niece, who’s been asking since July if I know the gender. But I will soon insyaAllah!
Other than that, my doulas have been silent … I should remind them about the birth walks that they promised. And the birth class that we’re supposed to re-take (feeling quite sian about it actually.) I was halfway through a hypnobirthing book but haven’t touched my Kindle in ages. Need to resume reading too. And I keep planning to make a green juice but still haven’t. Aiyoh.
Aaand Watermelon has officially weaned!!! Since sometime in August actually, but I wanted to be sure we were done furreals before sharing here.
It’s bittersweet, of course. Towards the end of our nursing journey I was starting to feel a little touched out, and I was developing sensitivities (from being pregnant?) that was making nursing not as comfortable as before.
Alhamdulillah it was a gentle weaning process. It ended abruptly but we didn’t have to go through tears or negotiations. I almost feel like I could have perhaps gone on a little longer, but I suppose it’s better to part amicably than have a painful separation.
What a marvellous journey it has been ❤️ Super thankful for the positive influences I came across before and during my first pregnancy that told me breastfeeding is worthwhile and enjoyable. Before that I’d come across mums who told me they gave up on breastfeeding within weeks because it was taxing and demanding and it made me feel like when it’s my turn to have a baby, that I too should just give up early. Breastfeeding IS hard of course, but I wish it would get less of a bad rap, especially among first time mothers.
two week old Watermelon, drunk on milk
next month I want to …
- Bake a gender reveal cake
- Visit the treetop walk, and in general walk and exercise more
- Start green juicing
- Earn more projects!